Go live your life. Meanwhile, we'll keep looking.

A dating app with no feed and no swiping. Tell us what you're looking for and how much each thing matters. We'll introduce you when someone fits both ways, and nobody pays until their first mutual match.

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What you get instead of a feed

One introduction at a time, when someone fits what you asked for and you fit what they asked for. This is what one looks like.

An example introduction. Dana isn't a real person.

Dana, 34

Asheville, NC ~850 miles away

A fit on paper isn't a promise about the person. We compared what you each said you want -- nothing more. See for yourself.

In their words

Weekdays I fix old bikes at a community shop. Most weekends I'm halfway up a trail with a thermos and a bad playlist. I'd like a quiet house and a loud dinner table.

Your must-haves

FitWhat mattersYou wantDana
MeetsRelationship goalA life partnerA life partner
MeetsWants childrenYesYes

Also hoping for

FitWhat mattersYou wantDana
MeetsDistanceWithin 1,000 miles~850 miles away
MeetsDrinkingNever or SociallySocially
Falls shortPace of lifeQuiet and homeyA balance of both

In common

WhatYou both
Social energyDepends on the week
InterestsBoard games · Hiking

What's different

WhatYouDana
Where to settleA small townA city
ExerciseSometimesOften

You didn't rank these. We show them anyway.

You both have until 7:00 PM EDT on October 9 to answer.

  1. Verified, not vouched for.

    Everyone verifies a phone number and completes an identity check: a photo ID and a selfie, checked against each other. It's how we know there's one real person behind an account. Everything else is still yours to find out.

  2. Your dealbreakers, kept.

    A dealbreaker means never. Nobody reaches you unless they clear every one of yours, and you clear every one of theirs.

  3. Distance is a preference like any other.

    Set a limit, or choose anywhere in the US. If you'd rather meet the right person three states away than the wrong person three miles away, that works too.

  4. A miss is shown, not hidden.

    You hoped for quiet and homey. Dana is a balance of both. You decide whether that matters.

  5. So are the differences you never asked about.

    Where you'd differ on something you didn't rank, you still see it before you say yes.

  6. A week to answer, for both of you.

    One shared deadline, no countdown. Nobody finds out you said yes unless they said yes too.

Nothing new.

Go live your life. We'll reach out when someone fits.

And most days, this.

When nobody fits yet, the home screen says so and means it. We won't send filler matches just to have something to show you.

No streaks, no badges, no "someone viewed you."

How it works

  1. Say what matters, and how much

    21 questions about who you are and the life you want. For each one, you also say how much the other person's answer matters, anywhere from "I'm flexible" to "Dealbreaker." Those are separate questions for a reason. You can love hiking without needing a partner who hikes, and be flexible about almost everything except whether you want children.

  2. Choose how picky to be, then close the app

    You choose how closely someone needs to align with you. Be exactly as picky as you are. The pickier you are, the quieter it gets, and the setting tells you so. Then we keep looking, and if nobody fits yet, we say so.

  3. Meet someone who asked for you too

    When someone clears your bar and you clear theirs, you both get an introduction that shows why, including where you differ. There's still plenty you can only discover by meeting someone. The introduction gives you a reason to find out.

Who this is for

Meanwhile is for people who want something serious, who would rather say up front exactly what they're looking for, and who are willing to wait for someone who fits, in both directions.

If you want an endless pool of people to look through or a steady stream of conversations, there are already plenty of apps built for that. This isn't one of them.

Meanwhile is independent: no growth targets, no engagement dashboards, no one upstairs who needs you to stay. That's the only reason an app is allowed to want you to leave.

It's also new, so the pool is small and you may wait a while before anyone fits. It opens in the US first. Leave your email and we'll write when the doors open.

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